The Epidemic of Perfectionism in Silicon Valley

The Epidemic of Perfectionism in Silicon Valley

My neurologist listened to my concerns and then replied, “This problem — the problem of perfectionism and anxiety — is getting bigger and bigger every day.”

She described seeing an average of three people a day suffering from some form of chronic physical pain who had one thing in common: perfectionism. “It’s extremely common in the tech industry,” she said. “These people are very successful. They want to do everything right.”

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A Clear Case of Anxiety in Motion

A Clear Case of Anxiety in Motion

I was in the middle of finishing up my newsletter for the social network of overthinkers, bevoya.com. Alone and taking care of my 6-year-old daughter, a work issue suddenly popped up. Though I was distracted and I hadn’t completely finished my process of nailing down what I wanted to say in the newsletter, I hit send. I wanted the dopamine hit. I wanted to move on.

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Faulkner is Fired

Faulkner is Fired

In 2004, I sold a book proposal to the pub house I’d worked with collecting firing stories from well-known writers. The title: Faulkner is Fired. Sadly, the book itself never came together. It itself was, ironically, a failure. These essays from amazing writers Geoff Dyer, Charles Simic, Debra Ginsberg, and more deserve the light of day, though. That’s why I’m sharing them here.

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Avoiding Risk is Risky

Avoiding Risk is Risky

It makes sense that we focus on external financial risk. Those results are easy to gauge: Payoff equals rising income. But what about internal risk? What about emotional or psychological fallout from paths not taken? We don’t talk about them as much, but these fallouts play a huge role in our lives. They affect our most important relationships — our friends, families, marriages, our selves.

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